“Our need to connect is as fundamental as our need for food or water.”
—Matthew Lieberman, Ph.D.
I’m not quite sure when it happened, but somewhere along the way I began resenting myself. I wouldn’t call it hate; It grew into the type of relationship where you work and live so closely with someone… and you tolerate them. I have good days with myself and days where it is all I can do to survive.
My childhood was awesome — loving family with plenty of opportunities to explore the things I loved. There is no solid explanation for this realization other than diet culture.
Something I’ve discovered about diet culture is the solidarity that comes along with dieting. You know how they say, “misery loves company?” Truth. It’s literally EVERYWHERE.
Recent real-life examples:
1) Enjoying locally-sourced tomato basil parmesan scones at a breakfast meeting.
I really shouldn’t be eating these! We need to stick to our diets, right?
2) Asking a friend to split a fresh-out-of-the-oven pastry at a local coffee shop.
I’m on a cleanse. Gotta take care of ourselves, right?
3) Relaxing on a boat, minding my own business.
So, what are you doing now? Are you still Paleo?
With all the quick fix commercials and marketing campaigns, it’s too easy to fall prey to this ploy and way too hard to find an escape.
So, how do we put a hand up to the overwhelming messages of the world and say, “I love myself in spite of it all?”
This is my quest. And I’ll report back when I find out.